A New Year: A New Beginning

The New Year: A New Beginning.

And she's back, folks. Phew, Real Life is such a hard thing to avoid, I tell ya. Here I was, planning on doing an update every two weeks or so. Yeeah, that succeeded rather well, didn't it? *sighs* I'm going to do better, people, I promise. Just be patient with me, please.

Hmmm, what to write about....OH!! I got a boyfriend!!!!!!!!! *squees* Yep, you heard right, a boyfriend. After years and years of waiting, R.E. Durbin fonud herself a man. *smirks* What's that? You want more details? Weelll, if you insist...*winks* I know, I should win an Oscar for my acting skills.



Okay, so here's the dealio:

His name is John. In looks, think bookworm mixed with cute nerd, complete with pocket notepad and pens, with glasses.

Anyhow, we go to the same church, so we'd seen each other over the years, in passing, but never been formally introduced. One of the main reasons for this was because I was, until quite recently (read: in the past half year) battling Chronic Lymes Disease. I'm still fighting it, but not as much as I was back last year. Thus, because of this, I felt it wasn't quite fair to any guy to date him when I was in bed most days, or "praying to toilet god". But then, last March (2015) I started a new protocol, and it's been working wonders. By the summer of 2015 I felt well enough to start looking around for a guy.

Now, you must keep in mind, I'm of the opinion that dating is meant to lead to courting, which ends in marriage. So, I wasn't just looking of just any man, I wanted a husband. Yes, I know, it's not really what the world does these days, but I'm very old fashioned and I've wanted to have a family of my own since I was about 8, so...yeah.

Anyhow, I prayed a long time and then saw John in the parking lot again. This was at the end of July. My immediate thoughts were as follows:

"I know that guy! Hmm....he's kind cute. And he's talking to a mutual friend. Perfect opportunity to casually walk over and insert myself into the conversation! If he's interested, he'll bop the third wheel out (sorry mutual friend)."

As we're dating now, you can probably surmise he took interest right away. I found out he was a Latin and Greek student (he's got his Masters in Greek now, and is taking the tests this week for Latin). We gushed for about half an hour over Latin and Greek. You should've seen his eyes light up when I didn't get bored once. True, I don't normally talk that much about Latin, or Greek, but I could tell he really liked them, and it wasn't as if I hated either language.

So, we parted on the note that I loved writing to people. Hand written letters. Le gasp! No email or IMing? He blinked in surprise too. But next thing I know, I see him the following Sunday and he's giving me his address, so I can write him while he helps his parents (in another state).

I waited about a week and then realized, I'd never given him MY address. Silly me. :P I decided to fix the problem by writing him (return labels are such a wondrous invention, no?). Anyhow, he was all "Oh, I didn't expect you to write ME first." Which, of course, made me freak and write him back that I wasn't trying to be "forward" (aren't I ancient?). I did this on very nice paper, btw. He write back that he wasn't thinking forward, just confident (yay!). He also made me laugh a ton in both letters, more in the latter one though. I t was then I realized I could see myself dating this guy.

He came back at the end of August and we were officially going out by the beginning of September.

We've found we're very similar in many things:

1) Love Star Wars.
      ----He's this amazing book trilogy called 'The Thrawne Trology'. If you've never read it, DO SO NOW. The villain is basically Moriarty. I couldn't put it down, people. So good. *drools at the memory*

2) Same moral and religious ways. We both felt that was important, as we've seen it break famiiles apart before.

3) We both are nerds/geeks/old fashioned. It works.
    ----Point in case, for valentines day, he wrote me a letter in High Elvish, Normal Elvish, and then English (because he knows I LOVE Tolkien). I drew him a card with a personal note inside.
My card:

4) We've similar humor. Puns are life. :D

And then we've our differences too (because if we were exactly the same it'd be boring really):

1) He doubts himself a bit more than me. Not by much though. We kind of go through stages where I help him along, encouraging him,  and then he turns around and does the same for me.

2) I'm more comfortable in being stern with children. He has trouble saying "no" to them sometimes. Which I totally understand. But I've both helped bring up my younger siblings, babysat, and am teaching, so I know you can't always say "yes".

There are more on both pros and cons, but I think you get the gist.

We're now both starting to save up money so we can, hopefully, marry next year, God willing.

That's all on my end for now.

I think next time I'll talk about my Lymes. It definitely was a big impact in my life. Or maybe I'll go into my art. You tell which sounds more interesting to you.